Life is like a melody

Life is like a melody

Sometimes we forget that life is like a melody. It’s not a flat tone. It’s a sequence of tones. It goes up and down, it goes between the sorrows and the glories. Sometimes it goes really fast like a drum, sometimes it goes slow like a soothing wind. But one thing to remember: “they are always played in harmony”. So next time you complain about your satback, remember that it is, too, part of the beautiful melody. And once it’s a flat tone, it is no more a melody.

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Know Thyself

Know Thyself

Around 2400 years ago in Athens of Greece, there lived a cute boy from one of the wealthiest and the most influential families. His father provided every facility for his development. Grammar class, music class, gymnastics class, ballet class, all from the greatest teachers in the city. Wait, I guess he didn’t take ballet class. But he grew very well, sharp and talented; unfortunately, without the ballet skill. People recognized him as a bright though modest boy who excelled in his studies.

Raised in the era of philosophy, he studied under some of the era’s most distinguished teachers: Socrates. He learned a lot about Socrates’ philosophy. One of them is how to reach the state that he termed: “Eudaimonia” which means ‘fulfilment’. Unlike Socrates who never wrote anything about his thoughts, this boy wrote lots of them. He wrote 36 books, all dialogues with his teacher beautifully crafted scripts of imaginary discussions. These then became the root of modern philosophy.

A few years went by. Then a few more. And then . . . nothing happened.  Just a little bit older, but still cute. He then created his own philosophy. One of them is the idea of how to reach Eudaimonia: “Think Harder”. In his opinion, our lives go wrong because we barely give ourselves time to think carefully and logically about our lives and how to live them. So we end up with the wrong values, careers and relationships. Read more

For the first time, I brave myself to change

For the first time, I brave myself to change

After I was overwhelmed with lots of things in my surrounding, I decided to change myself completely. Ya I decided to be bald.

I am bored of following popular opinions, while I actually have a different perspective about them.

I am sick of pretending to be okay, when in fact I’m actually not.

I am tired of being people pleaser and sacrificing my own happiness.

I am exhausted of being nicely fit in to society, while in reality every piece inside me is screaming because it doesn’t fit my personality.

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Embrace Yourself

Embrace Yourself

When I ask you about your first love. I am silently wishing that you’re going to say your own name.

So that I know, every choice that you make is based upon your conscience. So if one day you ask me to be on your side, I know that it will be your final decision.

So before that, please embrace yourself. Be alone, eat alone, and take yourself on dates. Only then you could learn about yourself in a deeper level. Only then you could hear the whisper of your heart.

Conflict Management

Conflict Management

Conflict is an inevitable part of life. We have experience so many situations with conflicts in it. Poor interpersonal communication for most of the time become the number one factor that flares up a simple disagreement into a resentment or worse.

It is human to disagree. Conflict can either be good or be bad, the essential part is to manage them. With a good management, conflict might produce a great solution. On the contrary, with a bad management, it might be ended up as a terminal friction.

Conflict might be ended up with exhausting, stressful, broken relationships and lost of opportunities or it can deepen our connection to the people we care about. It can provoke useful conversation with people with whom we disagree. Conflict can give us the momentum and the opportunity to talk about what matters.

Most of the time the advice you get to manage the conflict is “communication“. But sometimes talking about it seems to make it worse. The other advice is “to compromise“. But it is not always easy to compromise with people who are in the same conflict. Moreover, when you are drowning in the sea of negative emotions.

I’m sure all of aforementioned advice is well-intentioned. But it treats conflict as if it’s a problem.

What if conflict isn’t a problem, what if it’s a solution.
What if it’s not negative, but full of beauty?

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Ketakutan

Tiba-tiba muncul quote yang di-post oleh salah satu rekanku di jejaring sosial:

Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

Quote ini cukup menggelitik, karna disatu sisi ada benarnya, disisi yang lain aku juga tidak begitu setuju.

Aku memiliki teori hina bahwa:

“Setiap orang di dunia hidup dalam ketakutan. Perbedaannya, bagaimana cara mereka mengendalikan ketakutan mereka.”

Disadari atau tidak, kita tumbuh dan dididik dari ketakutan. Read more

Assalamualaikum 2018, please be awesome!

Assalamualaikum 2018, please be awesome!

My 2017 was beautifully colored by plot twists, ups and downs, glories and sorrows. The year I found another side of “me”. The year of “Self Discovery”.

2017 has given me new experiences, new perspectives, and new ways of thinking.

When I rewind every hardship, burdens, loss and heartaches; I remember – yes, I went through hell last year — but I made it through. And now I am more powerful than ever. The pain has strengthened me. It helped me to grow. It helps me to have a better understanding to the people of all sorts. Now I know what kind of toxic people I should keep far away from me, or at the very least, I know how to deal with them.

When I recall every celebrations, joys and glories; I realize – yes, the road in 2017 was not always smooth. But it shapes me anyway. And those lessons have given me the rewards that I deserve to own. Instead of seeing 2017 as a failure, I’d rather take that as I was training my best, as I was trying my hardest. I don’t dare to start 2018 by a negative thought. So I want to proudly saying “YES – I am WORTHY of all the rewards”. Because It’s when you’re up against the wall that your true character shows.

Now, I know a little bit more about myself and the way I want to live my life to completion.

Thank you 2017!

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